6 Tips to Keep Calm before the Wedding

If you have been reading my blog, you probably know by now that my husband and I got engage around October last year. So, that makes roughly a year now.

Also, in my previous posts, I have most likely mentioned about the stress of planning a wedding – especially if it’s yours. I am a wedding planner, by the way, so I should know the difference of planning your own and planning for other people.

Anyway, when the wedding is getting near, apart from the jitters, women most likely are getting crazier each day. Well, I guess that’s normal. Who wouldn’t want a perfect wedding anyway? But girl, there is no such thing as perfect – unless you perceive it to be.

So, to help you somehow, I am listing not one but six tips to keep your nerves calm while preparing for your BIG DAY. Let me start with…

  1. Delegate Tasks. Asking help is not bad at all. But while you do so, make sure that you’re delegating it to trusted people. Those you know will really help you. Make sure they’re the ones who know you too well. That makes life easier, promise.


  1. Take a Break. Yes! You read it right. From time to time, take a break from the wedding planning. This helps your mind think better and keeps your body healthier. Remember, too much stress can cause you to lose your mind and get crazy. Physically, it might get you thinner or put those pimples on your face. You don’t want that, right? So make time to relax.


  1. Pamper Yourself. Don’t just take a break. Pamper yourself too! Go to the spa, have some massage, dip into the waters, eat your favorite dessert, hit to your favorite destination. You can do that! Do not let wedding planning hinder you from doing all that.


  1. Have a Date. I think this is very important. Do not consider your wedding-related getaways or meetings as dates. They’re not. Make sure you have that one day in a week when you just enjoy each other’s company. No wedding talks, just date.


  1. Accept that nothing is perfect. While there’s nothing wrong with aiming for perfection, it’s better to be realistic. We can only dream of perfection, but in reality, some things might not go our way. During my own wedding, I remember the table setup/styling was not what we agreed on. When I saw it, instead of feeling bad or asking the venue why is that so, I shrug it off. When I saw the photos later on, I realized, it was actually nice. Those things, you cannot control, so learn to let go and accept that things like that really happen.


  1. We can do nothing without the Divine Grace. At the end of the day, we can only do so much. God is still in control of everything. Learn to lift everything up to the Lord and allow a room for Him to surprise you on your most beautiful day.

The Love Story


I’ve been writing about our wedding but I realized I have not written yet the story behind it. Where it all started, and how did we get to this point in our lives.

So let’s go back memory lane and allow me to share with you our love story. Ready for a long read? Here we go…

My husband I met a few times before the official meeting. If you ask us when we first met, our answers are not the same. Why? Because he hardly remember the first time we met.

Technically, we first met at a friend’s house in November 2015 when he dropped by to accompany a common friend. I said “hi” but I think I was too thin and snobbish for him to notice. Even up to now, he wouldn’t remember me at that time.

We met in a few more instances after that but could hardly recall each other’s names and faces. Then, on March 2016, at a singles congress in Cebu, we formally met each other. But wait, before the “Gboy meets Pammy”, our paths crossed at McDonald’s near Sto. Niño Shrine. I was then waiting for a long-time friend.

He entered the fast-food chain, lined up, and then he saw me. He kept looking at me that it got me irritated. Though partly, his face seemed familiar.

Later that day, at the convention center, a common friend called me to introduce him to me. I nicely said “Hi,” and he was like “We met this morning.” Of course, I could not remember until he mentioned where. In my head, “Oh, you were the guy who kept staring that irritated me.”

Fast-forward from that weekend, we met again after a while when we had our household (prayer meeting). I did not expect him to be there – it was his first time to attend. When he came, I opened the gate, and the usual “Hi”.

It was that night that I got to know him better. His sharing was enough for me to judge him as a family and nice man. Later that night, the group decided to do a pilgrimage the following day. Since I have no clothes, I asked a friend to accompany me home so I could get one. Well, showing his gentleman side, he offered his services – he drove us home. Later on (when we were a couple already), he revealed that it was his way of knowing where I live. Genius!

Days passed, I did not notice any move. So I though he wasn’t into me. Not until after that one assembly. He brought me home along with our friend. But before heading the house, we ate at Pares just across my place. Little did I know, our friend smelled something fishy – on him of course.

That night actually started it off. We kept texting each other since then. I already noticed something “weird” but I shrugged it off because I promised to never assume until the guy says so. So, that weekend, he asked me if I wanted to attend The Feast at PICC with him. Since I have always been wanting to attend one, and I guess because I felt secure with him, I agreed. So yeah, it was apparently, our first date (without me knowing).

Weeks passed, the weekend “dates” happened, then suddenly, he told me (through text! But later talked about it face to face) that he was into me. He wanted to formalize everything. He told me he’s praying about pursuing me. I simply told him that we both pray about it.

Everything in our love story went fast, maybe, but it felt right and sure. I actually refer it to God’s perfect time. We met at a time when we both entrusted our hearts to God. When we surrendered to the will of the Lord.

He pursued me for a month. Yes, just a month. I did not plan it. In my head, I was actually thinking of having it last for at least 3 months. But to my surprise, yes, it happened exactly a month after he told me his intentions.

We were on our way home that night when we happen to pass by a gate with house number 143 on it. I told him, “Uy, 143 oh! (Hey! It’s 143)”, to which he answered, “I love you too.” Crazy, right? But I shrugged it off because in my head, it was not yet the time.

Then he asked me, “Ba’t ang sweet mo ngayon? …Maraming beses mo ako hinug. (Why are you sweet today? You hugged me for a couple of times.)”. I replied, “I hug the people I love.” Where in the world did I get that!? He told me I should clarify what I just said. I panicked. I told him to not mind it – he’s a friend and because of that, I love him. Of course, I was trying hard to get out from the situation. It was not yet time or so I thought.

But the Lord has his own timeline. He follows not our timetable but his. So before going out of the car, I took a deep breath and made everything clear to him. I told him what I really feel about him. We then prayed and hugged to seal the deal.

Looking back, it still puts me in awe how the Lord has written our love story. It was not how I imagined it to be, but it was more beautiful than what I have in mind. God truly is a God of surprises. He makes things happen not based on our will but His.

Hope you had a great time reading! God bless your heart.

PS: The photo above was taken at his birthday getaway — we weren’t together yet at that time. 🙂


5 Realizations in Planning a Wedding

So before I continue my appreciation posts. Let me share some realizations with you first.

My husband and I prepared for our wedding for about nine months only. For some it’s too short while for others long. For us, it was just enough. With the help of friends and family, plus the internet, everything was easy for us (except gathering resources – financial resources! Hahaha).

So, as a newly wedded wife, here are some points I wanted to share with you as you prepare your wedding:

  1. Time. You need enough time when preparing a wedding. There are so many things that need to be done. Best if you have a trusty journal or planner with you where you can write down the details you need to settle and do your timetable. Work according to your timeline and it’ll be less stressful.
  2. Compromise. Yes, couples need to compromise. Along the way there will be a lot of decision-makings. It is important that you talk things out and meet halfway. Good thing for me, my husband and I share the same vision for our wedding so it was not that hard. By the way, apart from you and your fiancé, both your parents and siblings might also want to share some inputs in your wedding. Some you might agree while some not. In that case, talk about it with them and compromise.
  3. Make up your mind. During the planning, there’s a tendency to get overwhelmed with a lot of things especially if you keep looking at Pinterest or wedding websites. Better if you sit down with your partner and talk what you really want, what you envision for your wedding day. Once done, focus on that. Remember, you will always find better ideas along the way so better stick to what you’ve decided on unless it’s necessary to change.
  4. Budget. The most important of all. One thing I learned so far is that when budgeting, make sure to list down all possible expenses. Consider the expenses before, during, and after the wedding. If possible, always make an allowance per item. It’s better to exceed than to cut short.
  5. Have fun. The process may be stressful but it would be less than stressful if you two will have fun. You will only take that path once, so savor every moment. I tell you, once the wedding’s done, you will miss it. I do miss it! Terribly.

So there. Hope this helps. Happy wedding planning!


The Flowers and the Backdrop

Starting off my “supplier appreciation” posts with our flower supplier, Flower Power by Ryan and Jenny Maagma.

I personally know ate Jenny and kuya Ryan for more or less seven years already since we all belong in the same Catholic community. I’ve seen a lot of their work through the years. I must say, they’re really blessed with artistry and creativity.

They both know me too well that even before I found my husband, they knew what flowers I’d want for my wedding. So, that makes life easier for me. Yes, because I need not explain too much.

Ever since, I’ve always dreamt of a simple but elegant and classic wedding. I wanted something timeless. Every detail must be. Thank God, He gave me a man who also wanted the same.

When we and the Maagmas started talking about how the flowers would be, I just told them my requirement: something simple but pretty. With my bridal bouquet, I looked for a peg that suits best my taste. I knew I wanted something feminine but not too common. It had to be something me. When I found the perfect peg, I just sent it to ate Jenny and that’s it.

For the rest of the entourage, I entrusted it to them. I did not give too many specifications. I trusted them too much that there’s no need for that. It also included the flowers at the church. My instruction? The church is beautiful as it is, I do not want anything elaborative. I wanted everyone to appreciate the beauty of the church, for them to focus more on it rather than the flowers.

Fast forward, on the day of the wedding, Flower Power delivered as expected. The first thing (literally) I saw when I woke up was my bouquet. The moment I saw it, it was what I desired and more – more because I knew it was a labor of love.

But wait, there’s more! Kuya Ryan did our backdrop at the reception. He did a 3D effect of our official wedding logo, which by the way was designed by a dear friend of mine. How he executed it was just beautiful. If only we can take that home and place it somewhere in the house, we would. Haha!

If for their workmanship and the fun and love they put into what they do, I would have to give a 10 to Flower Power. Highly recommended, indeed.







PS: All photos were taken by BrilliantBum Photography.

Love · Wedding

The Bride is Now a Wife

Little less than two months ago, me and my then fiancé got married! Woohoo! So here we are starting our new life together, unfolding the mysteries of married life. So how it was? It was fun and definitely, memorable. Weddings should be!

In a couple of posts from now, I’ll be sharing with you the story of making the wedding of the year – well, at least for our families. Yes, I am giving each of my suppliers a space so I can fully share how I got to meet them, and how easy-breezy it was working with each of them.

For now, here’s a few couple shots taken after the wedding. Enjoy!




PS: All photos were taken by BrilliantBum Photography.


The Home

For a couple of months, we’ve been searching the perfect place to live once we’re married. We scouted here and there until we were led to what we will soon call – home. The story behind finding it was all by chance or should I say, it was just really destined to be.

I happen to call an agent I saw online. All along I thought he what he posted was the condo we were eyeing to stay at. Apparently, a day before our scheduled visit, the agent called me for confirmation. It was then that I realized it was the other condo of the same developer. It was the condo we never thought of checking out.

Out of courtesy, we agreed to visit the place anyway. Turned out, there we will find what we have been looking for. But before finding the right unit, we chanced upon a unit we liked based on what we can afford. Sadly, the day we were about to reserve the unit, it wasn’t already available. Yeah, it was a little heartbreaking until the agent convinced us to check other available units. We were a little hesitant (especially me) first since the price is high, but checked on them anyway.

I guess our agent was heaven-sent. If not for him and his very good sales skills (and urging), we wouldn’t find the one. We found our nest at Cityland Grand Central. We found our home. We found the place where we will (with so much hope) start our life and (our soon-to-be/in-God’s-time) family together. It’s nothing grand, but, it’s just right for starters like us. We cannot wait to turn this unit to a home.


Meanwhile, as of this writing, we’re halfway to making it look like a “real” home. We have purchased what we think are much-needed items already while the others we thought of buying after the wedding. My fiancé has already lived there for almost two months, while I sometimes do sleepover to get the feel of it. I cannot wait to eventually move in in the next few weeks (enter separation anxiety in the picture – hehehe).

PS: We are yet to do a house warming. Hoping to do it before the wedding together with our families. Nothing grand, just so it is blessed.



The Prenup Shoot

When we were preparing for the shoot, I thought it would be easy since we do not have a theme to follow. We just wanted it laidback and fun. 

However, I was proven wrong. Apparently, the preparation was stressful — especially for someone who doesn’t have a “fashion-worthy” closet. My clothes are mostly basic and because of that, it was hard to find the right outfit for our simple, non-themed shoot.

But because the Lord is good, He took that opportunity for me to trust in Him and the goodness and generosity of friends.

A week before the shoot, I was already in panic because I have nothing to wear (or so I thought). Then came Kat, a friend from the SFL community. When I saw her during our community gathering, there was that instant light bulb moment. She was the one I was looking for — a fashionista friend who would do styling for us and yes, would lend me clothes to wear (but she was more than that, see below photo).

After a couple of consulations, we had the perfect outfit for the shoot. Ops! I said awhile ago that we didn’t have a theme. Did not even think of having it styled (there’s just a lot of things to do before getting married, you know), but because we have awesome and amazing friends, what we thought was simple came out to be more than what we imagined it to be.

Ate Jenny and Kuya Ryan of Flower Power Flowers and Event Styling came on the day of the shoot prepared. They brought not just my beautiful bouquet but brought other stuff to make our shoot Bride and Breakfast worthy.

So blessed with friends, right? Not just that, we had a few more friends who helped and made the shoot more meaningful for us — We had Francis the best man and Med the maid of honor who made sure everything were well taken cared of. Kat and Princess served as our PAs while Vic and Jiezan where there to help capture behind-the-scene moments. Kuya EY and Macy were there to help us out too and to take inspiration from as they’re getting married as well.

Of course, the shoot won’t be complete without our official photo team, BrilliantBum Photography. Serg and his team did an awesome job in spite of the hot weather.

We were all soaked in the sun but no one complained. Everyone just kept laughing and hopefully enjoyed each other’s company. Oh, and we had that bumpy and dusty ride going up and down the mountains too.

It was tiring but it was more than fun. It was filled with so much love not just between us, but between each of us. Thank you Lord for blessing us with awesome people in our lives.❤